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To create this article, 19 people, some anonymous, worked to edit and improve it over time. This article has been viewed 34, times. Learn more Everyone has dreams and desires that may seem unattainable. They don't have to stay that way though. With some simple steps and self-control, you can be on your way to achieving the goals you never thought possible.
Article Summary. Co-authored by 19 contributors Community of editors, researchers, and specialists February 27, Method 1 of Make a "must-do" list. Everyone has a "to-do" list, and it is rarely completed. The problem with a to-do list is that it lacks urgency. Instead, a must-do list are the critical things that have to happen in order for you to advance.
Studies show that individuals who are constantly in motion towards their goals are generally more satisfied with life than those who reflect on issues. Keep the list tight and focused. Put down two or three goals that you need to accomplish that day. Keep your list handy. Reference it throughout the day to make sure you're on track to reach your goals.
Make sure the goals are obtainable. Lofty goals are good for motivation, but make sure that your must-do list has concrete, obtainable goals for that day. Commit to the "When" and "Where. By writing a statement on your must-do list like "I will perform [an action] when I encounter [a situation]," you increase your motivation and help fight procrastination.
Continually reaffirm your desires. Keep the end goals in sight, and update them as your life and situation change. Don't dwell on what you haven't accomplished yet. Instead, focus on your journey towards attaining your goals. Method 2 of Take baby steps. Instead of focusing on the end-goal, break the process down into manageable, daily goals. For example, instead of saying "My goal today is to get a raise at work," approach the goal from a more manageable perspective. Start with smaller goals, such as getting to work early every day, or going out of your way to have a conversation with your boss.
The point of the baby steps is to build up to your end-goal through obtainable, tangible steps. Demonstrate self-control and self-discipline. There are countless distractions in today's world, and it can be easy to get side-tracked.
Keep your Must-Do list handy and refer to it whenever you feel yourself drifting off course. Don't allow yourself to get sucked into time wasting activities when you have goals to obtain. Set aside designated leisure time for the day. Resist the temptation to "work on it tomorrow. Practice until you're perfect.
Take the time to practice skills that you haven't mastered yet. More skills means more opportunities for you. Hone your skills that you need to achieve your goal. For example, if you are looking for a raise, work on the skills you need for the job on your free time in order to increase your effectiveness at work. Broaden your skillset. Work on skills that may not relate to your current goals, but that interest you.
Not only will this keep you productive, it will make you a more well-rounded and capable person. Never lose heart. You will hit obstacles and setbacks. Keep your mind focused on your goals and your heart positive. Celebrate each small victory to give yourself a boost in spirit.
Approach each defeat as a lesson to be learned; dust yourself off and try another way. Be confident. Confidence is essential to obtaining goals and changing your life. It will affect all of your interactions with others, and will drastically increase your motivation. Take pride in your actions and thoughts, and own your mistakes. Be able to laugh at yourself, but avoid self-deprecation. There is a difference between being confident and being cocky.
Avoid over-inflating your ego by tempering your confidence with some realism. Cockiness is often viewed as a sign on inner insecurity. A truly confident person inspires confidence and trust in others. Method 3 of Spend time with positive people.
Positive thinkers are infectious, and by surrounding yourself with those who are positive, your mindset will become more positive too. A positive mindset is necessary for both achieving your goals and being satisfied with your life in general. Avoid pessimists and naysayers. Don't allow people to talk down your goals. Be aware of the emotions of the people you associate with.
They have a powerful effect on the emotions and motivations that you feel. Talk to important people. There will always be someone in a higher position than you. Do everything you can to engage those that have more power than you. Start by greeting and engaging in light conversation. As the person becomes more familiar with you, ask for some advice. See what you can do to help this person, and he or she will be more inclined to help you.
Avoid being overbearing or overeager. Be persistent, but not an annoyance. Again, confidence will take you far. Powerful people respect confidence, and reward those who are willing to go the extra mile. Make friends from all walks of life. Networking is an essential social tool for advancing your goals. Broaden your scope by engaging people outside of your relative position and field.
The more people you know, the more opportunities you will have. You will also expand your support group, as you will meet people who can help you on your path to achieving your goals.
Your personal influence grows as your network expands. You will find that as you are able to influence more people, you will increase your ability to make your goals a reality. Take advantage of professional social sites such as LinkedIn when networking at a corporate level.
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Written by Mick Jagger and Keith Richards , it was named as the th greatest song of all time by Rolling Stone magazine in its list of the " Greatest Songs of All Time " before dropping a place the following year. It proved to be quite difficult to record because Charlie couldn't play the groove and so Jimmy Miller had to play the drums. I'd also had this idea of having a choir, probably a gospel choir, on the track, but there wasn't one around at that point.
Jack Nitzsche , or somebody, said that we could get the London Bach Choir and we said, "That will be a laugh. It exists in two versions, a single mix  and a album mix. It features the London Bach Choir opening the song the choir opening is only on the album version , highlighting throughout, and bringing it to its conclusion. Al Kooper plays piano and organ, as well as the French horn intro, while Rocky Dijon plays congas , maracas and tambourine.
The orchestra was not just to cover everything up—it was something extra. We may do something like that on the next album. The three verses and the varied theme of the fourth verse address major topics of the s: love, politics, and drugs. Each verse captures the essence of the initial optimism and eventual disillusion, followed by the resigned pragmatism of the chorus. Much has been made of the lyrics reflecting the end of the overlong party that was the s, as a snapshot of Swinging London burning out.
That's a valid interpretation, but it should also be pointed out that there's also an uplifting and reassuring quality to the melody and performance. This is particularly true of the key lyrical hook, when we are reminded that we can't always get what we want, but we'll get what we need.
Jimmy Hutmaker of Excelsior, Minnesota , claimed to be the "Mr. Jimmy" cited in the song and that he said the phrase "you can't always get what you want" to Jagger during a chance encounter at an Excelsior drug store in Jimmy" refers to Miller, the Stones producer from to I know they used me as a muse for those tough drug songs.
I knew I was being used but it was for a worthy cause. The song is also very popular at Rolling Stones shows in part because of its sing-along chorus, and is played at almost every show, where it is customary for Jagger to change the lyrics from "my favourite flavour, cherry red" to the question "What's your favourite flavour? The same choir also performed on the track at Glastonbury and two performances at Hyde Park in In the track, the choir can be heard working out the lines and voices with Mick Jagger speaking in between takes.
The recording was only made available for 24 hours on Youtube. President Donald Trump played the Rolling Stones' recording of the song at campaign appearances during the Republican primaries and the presidential election , including his nationally televised acceptance speech at the Republican National Convention in July. From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.
Original song written and composed by Mick Jagger, Keith Richards. This article is about the song by the Rolling Stones. According to the Rolling Stones.
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